I think it's pretty obvious that this time of year is incredibly busy for all. While it is by far my favorite time of year, it can also feel overwhelming. Anyone else ever feel this way? I looked at my calendar the other day and realized I don't have much free time between now and Christmas. Which do not get me wrong, most of the things on my list to do are going to be incredibly fun and I'm fully looking forward to but despite that, it can feel like time is going by way too fast. And with that speed it can feel like you don't possibly have enough time to complete everything you want to. With all the events happening, weekends filling up so quick, celebrating Christmas with friends, work, and all the other day to day things it can feel like there is so much to accomplish in so little time. That is why I thought it would be a good idea to write down the biggest lesson I've learned when trying to balance a crazy schedule.
All throughout the year, it can feel like there is a lot of pressure to make time for everything. Spend enough time with your friend groups. Spend enough time with your significant other. Spend enough time with your family. Make time to workout. Add work on top of all of that. And most importantly also make time for your own wellness. For me personally, I enjoy being busy and spending a lot of time with all the important people in my life. But at times, it also feels like I am spreading myself thin and I need that full Sunday where I do nothing but sit on my couch and watch Dateline. I know plenty of people who feel like this and others who can hopefully relate. Life is really all about balance which can be hard to master. I certainly do not have it figured out but I'm trying to get there.
I think the most important tip I've learned over the past year is to know when I need a break and actually listen to myself. A couple years ago, you could find me at home monday-friday after work. I would use the weekends as time to spend with friends and family but the majority of my week was filled with self care & relaxation & alone time. Fast forward to the past year of my life and that alone time wasn't so valued anymore. Quite honestly, I think that is one of the strangest ways my anxiety has manifested. I used to cherish quiet nights with nothing to do. Now if I have too much alone time I kind of start to freak out. Does anyone else feel this way? I know this all stems from my last relationship. During the times when I knew things weren't right and I was constantly being let down I would hate to be alone. The more time I sat at home by myself with my thoughts gave my mind time to think and think and think and then think some more. I found myself forcing myself to stay busy to drown out the thoughts in my head. Even when I was exhausted I'd still go out with that friend, still drive downtown and crash with my sisters. I certainly wasn't balancing my time in the best way. But this is where it all started.
Now that I'm more aware of this, I make a conscious effort to enjoy the nights where I have nothing going on. To make time for myself during the week to do things solely for myself. Like binge watch a show (most recently it's Shameless, which if you haven't watched I highly recommend!). I also make the time to bake something because I love it and also can't go a week without having homemade goodies (the best chocolate chip cookie recipe coming soon!) I also love to endlessly sit with my ipad and read through some of my favorite blogs (current favs are Cupcakes & Cashmere, Man Repeller, The Blissful Mind, and Butter & Brioche). So during the next few weeks of madness, I'm making a promise to myself to carve out time each night a week and fill it with all the things that allow me to unwind.
What are some ways you find balance during busy seasons of your life? Leave a comment or message me your thoughts.